Moving

Posted on 1st April 2013 in Non Kink

As some of you know I’ve been having problems uploading images to this blog, so I’m switching over to a Blogger blog in the hopes it’ll give me more space. I hope you’ll follow me over to: http://notthewhip.blogspot.com where the kink will continue

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Libido

Posted on 24th March 2012 in Non Kink, Ponderings

I want to preface this post by pointing out that I spent over an hour trying to remember the word for “sex drive!”…

My libido has always been a bit hit and miss. As a young teen when my hormones first kicked in it was definitely a hit, but when I hit 16 or 17 it was downhill and it’s never really picked up properly since.

That might seem odd given that I write a kink blog and consider myself a kinky person, but I think that’s why I wanted to write about it, to ponder aloud what the hell my libido is playing at!

There are times that usually last from a week to a month where I can’t get enough, where I am rampantly horny, dream of sex, masturbate often and want nothing more than a man (always a man in that case) to grab me, force me to the bed and have his, oh so evil (yet consensual), way with me.

However, the rest of the time months will pass without even a hint of lust. If it weren’t for someone mentioning it, it wouldn’t even cross my mind. It isn’t a need or a want, in fact it becomes something I dislike and want nothing to do with when it does come into my field of vision (so to speak). Those times might be easy right now, while I’m single, but in a relationship it’s hard.

So there it is, laid out for you! I’m a part-time kinkster and I don’t want to be! Any tips and tricks?

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30 Days of Kink: Day 30

Posted on 13th March 2012 in 30 Days of Kink, Non Kink

Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

 On not being X/Y/Z enough

I go through phases of kink. I’m kinky all the time, but there are times, a lot of times, where I don’t feel kinky enough. There’s so many ‘hardcore’ kinksters out there and I find it impossible to not compare myself with them: they don’t mind doing this, they love that, they do all these things I can’t…it goes on.

So now is one of those times where I find myself pondering if I should just drop out of kink for good and accept that I’m never going to be a good submissive because of my limitations and fears that I shan’t go into here, well, not right now anyway. Suffice to say they are unchangeable.

I don’t want to, when I don’t feel like this I love kink and when I’m enjoying it with someone special it’s the best thing ever, but right now I have no one special (in a LTR sense) and am beating myself up about all my failings and wondering if it’s worth it. Afterall, it’s supposed to be fun, not a lesson in all the things you suck at/can’t do.

The 2 Dom’s I’m currently playing with are understanding, but I still feel like I’m letting them down all the time and I hate that, but I can’t just magically change who I am and how I am.

*sighs*

I shall now stop rambling and promise a naughty post next time.

http://www.insatiabledesire.com/2010/08/09/thirty-days-of-kink/

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I’m baaaaaack!

Posted on 19th February 2012 in Non Kink

Back from under my non-kinky rock I shall be blogging stories, fiction and non-fiction, photos (lots of those), plans, thoughts and anything else that takes my fancy.

You will be reading and spanking me via the comments section!

So now we know where we stand!

p.s. Hope you like the theme!

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